Wedding Day | twonanas

I & S

reception dinner

18 March 2017

Intercontinental Bali Resort

Ever thine. Ever mine. Ever ours.

Even in bed my ideas yearn towards you, my Immortal Beloved,

here and there joyfully, then again sadly, awaiting from Fate, whether it will listen to us.

I can only live, either altogether with you or not at all.

Yes, I have determined to wander about for so long far away,

until I can fly into your arms and call myself quite at home with you,

can send my soul enveloped by yours into the realm of spirits — yes, I regret, it must be.

You will get over it all the more as you know my faithfulness to you;

never another one can own my heart, never — never!

O God, why must one go away from what one loves so, and yet my life in W.

as it is now is a miserable life.

Your love made me the happiest and unhappiest at the same time.

At my actual age I should need some continuity, sameness of life —

can that exist under our circumstances?

Angel, I just hear that the post goes out every day —

and must close therefore, so that you get the L. at once.

Be calm —

love me —

today —

yesterday.

What longing in tears for you —

You — my Life — my All — farewell.

Oh, go on loving me — never doubt the faithfullest heart

Of your beloved

L

Ever thine.
Ever mine.
Ever ours.

- Ludwig Van Beethoven

I struggled a lot trying to start this section about our wedding day. I guess I could start by saying that I never thought this day would come at an unexpected time.

In other story sections, I've mentioned that I dreamed of having a small and intimate beach wedding, and that was way before I had met my nanas in Japan. I guess, for a long time, I've always believed that a wedding shouldn't be as big and grandeur as what our Asian culture tells us.

Lucky me, I met my nanas and what we both wanted are pretty much the same. I don't even remember who pitched in the idea of having a wedding reception in Bali. I assume we both just knew Bali would be the place.

I couldn't imagine being with anyone who would want a different thing, because that would just simply mean I was going to marry someone I never really knew.

We never liked calling it a "wedding party", because we didn't really wed at this day.

We were lawfully married the year before; and we decided to have the party / reception, or what we would prefer as a

"family union" the next year, due to various family reasons, like distance, availability, etc.

picking the date

The both of us and our families are not strictly religious. We were not told to pick a date that's "suitable" in Chinese calendar, or a date with a lucky number in Javanese belief.

We picked a date and time suitable for both our families and friends.

Some of our families and friends would need to travel from the other side of the world, or take work leaves, so we picked the date which most of our invitees could come.

choosing venue

I'm not here to give advices on how you should choose your venues, and I may not know it all.

But for me, the venue is the most important thing. Not the dress, the ring, nor the date.

We agreed to have a small beach party. After screening through a couple of beautiful options, I wasn't quite sure myself if I really wanted a beach party, because what if it rains? What if people want to wear heels and couldn't? What if the wind was too strong that their hair became greasy?

But then after hours of scrolling through Instagram, I found the InterContinental Resort pretty amazing.

It had everything we wanted -- the beach, the garden, the resort, the Balinese touch.

So, on our trip to Bali, we made a visit to the InterContinental, and we fell in love.

" I believe in the kind of love that doesn't demand me

to prove my worth and sit in anxiety.

I crave a natural connection, where my soul

is able to recognize a feeling of home in another.

Something free-flowing - something simple.

Something that allows me to be me,

without a question "

- Joey Palermo

I know the moment when people heard that we got married, many of our friends, families, friends of families, may have thought all the worst possible cases why we "jumped" (as they may call it) into this decision.

Truth to be told, nothing was sudden. And we didn't jump into any decision.

Being married was one of the steps for the greater plan.

We have discussed, if not maybe for almost a year, whether or not we should do this.

In which country should we live in? His or mine?

What do we really want in both our lives?

What are we going to do?

Weighing all the pros and cons.

We would never do anything we never thought of.

And we still believe, nothing is ever "too soon" or "too quick", or even "too late".

Because, how do you even set a time to these things?

We are not 24, or 29.

We are not our age.

We are what we think, say or do.

We are not the Indonesian, or the Swede.

Not the son of this man, daughter of this woman.

We're just two people, who really respect each other, and will

do just about anything to be with one another.

To grow and be better. To learn from each other.

To lift each other up. To support one another.

And fighting to be together, is the best decision we ever took.

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